Of Twitter and Squirrels

I’m having more fun watching my tweets than I should.  I’ve somehow picked up some followers that I decided to follow, mainly because they seem to have some kind of association with adoption.

My fave right now seems to be a christian music groupie.  Her tweets pining for the objects of her affection just slay me.  She counts the miles they are away from her and sends them blessings.  Yesterday she was soliciting for someone to buy her a ticket to Finland just to be nearer her favorite.  It’s all kind of amusing and sad in a 13 year-old wet panties way.  she has a picture that looks like a very sweet little girl.  somehow you just know she’s really a pig in Walmart stretch pants.

I have another known as “borninmyheart” yeah, borninmyheart) who seems to have jumped on to everyone who has ever mentioned adoption in a tweet.  I’m not exactly sure what they are up to yet, but so far they seem to like the word distasteful.  I wonder if she has seen my blog?  

Other than that it’s pretty much liberal versus conservative politics nad every kind of adoption information and angst.  

Not much else going on in Addie’s wolrld.  Just doing the Spring thing, trying to get the garden in around torrential rain storms, working, and trying to get some plans firmed up for the summer.  

My cat is currently engaged in what looks to be a never ending war with a squirrel.  She seems to think that the squirrel is trying to set up a settlement in a tree that is ancestrally hers.  So far there has been a lot of tail swishing and chattering, but no engagement.  The Vegas bookmakers have the squirrel at 5-3 odds.  I’m putting my money on the cat.

Steven Curtis Chapman’s Daughter Dies In Accident

A little girl was tragically killed yesterday. It hit most of the wire services. I have no doubt that she was a innocent soul. My condolences go out to her family.

All of her family.

Her adoptive father is a person in the public eye, the story of the girls death made the news. I’m sure this is no comfort to her family, and I am sorry that they have to deal with this in the public eye. Being well known can carry with it a heavy price. Having no choice but to grieve in public must be a terrible experience.

Others will grieve with the Chapman family. The fans, those that knew nothing of her father’s music that simply read a very sad story in their newspaper, and those that know the family personally. And maybe a few others, if they know.

Somewhere far away, a woman who may only have hopes that her child found a better life, is thinking of her. She’ll have no way of knowing what happened.

Would she want to know what happened to her child? I don’t know. Given the choice between hope and a terrible confirmation of tragedy is a thing she most likely will never have to deal with. Maybe it’s for the best.

Would she be understanding if she of the tragedy that befell her child? I think so. She knows that life can be an unpredictable and cruel thing. She know that there are no good explanations for awful things that happen.

Again my condolences to all members of this girl’s family, if they know it or not.

I Don’t Moderate Comments..

so when I get a notification that I need to moderate a comment it usually means someone’s threatening legal action. This one came as kind of surprise, in reference to this post, Jesus Freak Saves Orphans..(I removed the links to protect the guilty, BTW)

Hi, fellow adoption blogger,

I’m sorry to spam you with this, but I’m an adoption blogger being threatened and I need your help.
Warmly,
AB

This article was published in our local paper. It was live yesterday, apparently they removed it.

I blogged about it here. some months ago, using direct quotes. I got this comment yesterday, then again today in my private email box:

A.B. You need to remove your Blog on “Read it and Puke”. Your blog is not based on Fact and it is very offensive to this family. I do not want Lisa and Scotty to see what you have written as they did not write the newspaper article. It was written by someone that does not know them and to be quite honest they were pressured by family to submit a picture to help advertise the fundraiser. The author of the article may not be familiar with the process of adoption or the complete intentions of this couple. They actually were trying to adopt a special needs child. And they actually have explored the option of DHR adoption. They were urged from friends that are foster parents not to adopt from within that system for personal reasons that do not include “just wanting a little white infant”. This was not a requirement of the Bartlett’s. What you have to understand is that just by your reading an article written by someone that does not know them does not justify such a hateful blog
personally attacking them as a couple or their intentions to adopt. If someone wrote and article about you or your work with the School or your church…. and it was someone you did not know, basically you have no control over what they publish. Some information may be speculation or just filling in the spaces to make an article they feel is worth reading. I beg of you to remove this before they see it. They have been through many hard times and much loss. Lisa has never been able to have a baby. They have been trying for many years to conceive. And for the record neither one of them are fertile. If you have never been in this situation and you have been obviously very blessed with your beautiful children you have no idea how hard this can be for a childless couple. I know that the internet is a place for free speech. But I would not think that the type person you portray yourself to be would not want to intentionally inflict pain on this family. You obviously work with the public,
school, and with your business and connections with your church I would not think that this is the type impression that you would want to make. I do not honestly believe that you would intentionally want to harm someone by such a hurtful article as “READ IT AND PUKE”. Please consider what I am asking to do. There is nothing good that can come of these words written against them.

If I do not hear from you I will explore my other options. Legal, etc.

I need anyone who is a blogger to read the quotes and blog about it if you want to.
FWIW Here is my response:

Dear Sir or Madam,

I am simply a blogger blogging on newspaper articles and social networking sites published openly. The inferences drawn were reasonable. It is up to the newpaper publisher to confirm the factuality of stories they publish. As a blogger, I reacted to */quotes in a news story./* Not individuals. When a story is published it becomes fair game for open discussion, and not everyone who read the story would feel that their motives were good and noble. It is possible that the family did not know this upfront.

I don’t “hold myself out to be” anything other than a sinner, saved by grace. I did soften the (many months old) post after receiving your comment.
I regret that you feel that the comments made might be hurtful to the family. As an adoptee, few things drive me to vitriol than sentiments that people deserve babies and it is unfair to deprive them of them. I disagree that there is little or no good that comes of blog postings like mine. People slowly realize that healthy adopted infants grow up, that we are not chattel, and that we aren’t always appreciative for what transpires, purportedly on our behalf.
If you feel that my blog post is deserving of legal action, I am happy to encourage your attorney to correspond directly with my attorney.
Yours,


Mrs. B.I have no idea who these people are. The commenter seems to be an adoptee, Christian mom, who had about the same reaction to the Chapman story that I did, if in a bit milder way. Who this person is threatening legal, again, I have no idea.

That’s what bothers me.

The letter in the link wasn’t signed, there was no link, or email address, to where it might have come from. I have no idea if this person threatening legal action is somehow connected to the Chapman organization ( I doubt it), a crazed stalker fan (I assume Chapman has those), or just a pissed off church lady(my bet). Whatever, I’m not linking it up. I don’t take anything on faith at According To Addie, and I’m not about to get into the middle of a church lady cat fight.

The fact that my post had nothing to do with the article that AB’s (whoever she is) post was linked to, also makes me wonder. I linked to an entirely different article. Could this be a lame ass attempt at some kind of viral marketing? Who knows? It just doesn’t seem right.

I suppose this frustrates me further because I was hoping to inspire some really good righteous cross pounding by militant Christian adoptive parents with my original post. I found it disappointing I was only able to draw one slightly miffed post concerning the legal definition of an orphan. I had hopes for rabid fans and adoptors galore.

Oh well, I’ll just throw this cross up on the hill and see what happens.

Hey! Steven Curtis Chapman, They Aren’t Orphans

Please read here before commenting on the tragic death of Steven Curtis Chapman’s Daughter

http://addiepray.wordpress.com/

And please note that this post was written months before the death of Steven Curtis Chapman’s daughter and has absolutely nothing to do with her. This post only concerns Mr. Chapman’s career decisions.

Check out this asswipe for Jesus..

Change For Orphans

I guess every child available for adoption is now an orphan according to this moron. Yep, every child available has no biological family, Jesus killed them all so Chapman could be a good guy.

Chapman had such a good experience with adoption that Jesus is killing off entire families so his fans can too experience the miracle of adoption. What a savior this guy is.

Seriously we all know that the vast majority of theses kids are not orphans in the traditional sense of the word, but it sure as hell makes folks feel good about themselves to think about them this way. They can conjure up images in their stupid little sheepy heads of Dicksenian waifs begging in the streets until Jesus (and a big injection of cash from Chapman) moves them to be saviors. All this without any pesky obviously Godless natural family to worry about. Meanwhile Chapman gets all kinds of good press. Hey it’s a win-win for everybody. Especially the grateful little orphans who not only get the chance to be raised by these self-centered, savior complex ridden, bad music listening, dips for Jesus, but might get the chance to promote super-savior Chapman’s career by appearing on stage.

What a fucking low-life this guy is, using available children, conveniently labeled orphan, to sell his latest album. What’s the matter Steven, did Jesus not get you the distribution deal that you needed to move product?