If you’re wondering who the heck Carolyn Pooler is, check these links out..
The short answer, not much.
The longer answer, quite a lot. We’ve learned that reform isn’t always about what’s best for everyone, sometimes it’s about desperation and clinging to things that no longer work.
Nobody is really sure if we heard from Carolyn or not, though I’m pretty sure that we did. Twice. There’s a good lesson. If you are not willing to take credit for your actions and defend them, you probably shouldn’t be working on anybody else’s behalf. You have to believe in what you’ve done enough to put you name on it and claim it. Hiding behind different screen names and posting from public computers, so you can’t be traced isn’t going to inspire a lot of confidence in what you have to say. So from Carolyn we learned to be ready to explain your actions and claim them. If you’ve managed to fuck up royally, admit it.
I suppose there is a an argument riding into town, hoopin’ and hollerin, killin’ all the women and rapin’ all the cattle. Hell, I’ve done it myself. But if you are going to do that, you need to case the place you are ridin’ into first. Carolyn didn’t do that. And because she didn’t do her research, all she managed to get done was fall in a pile of shit. Hell my blog was right there. If she had even read the previous post to The Missouri Compromise, she would have found that I’m staunchly anti-whining. As to the other folks she managed to insult, she didn’t check up on them either. There’s a lesson. Do your research. I don’t imagine she’s researched adoptee issues, or the current state of reform actions, any better than she researched me.
Lastly, and most importantly, we learned the price of alienating those that can help you in your cause. I can tell you it will be Frozen Margarita Night In Hell before I’d piss on her if she were on fire. I’m guessing there are a few others that feel the same, most of them in a better position to help her than I am.
Yes,The Carolyn Pooler Affair, as it will from now be known, because I say so. Has been an excellent lesson to us all. All the lame newbie internet insults, all the pathetic kicking and crying aside, Ms. Pooler has given us something to learn from.
There will be a test afterward.