I Have A Brand New Plan

Well with every adoptee rights bill introduced in the current Missouri legislative session either withdrawn, on hold, or revised into a total piece of shit, it’s time to move on.

But how do we do that?

I’m glad you asked. This is where the new plan comes in.

What we are doing just ain’t working. We are going to ditch the kicking and crying, the victim attitude, the constant whining, and the Queen For A Fucking Day adoption beat me up so bad I can’t go on bullshit. We will also be jettisoning the back biting, the self-congratulatory boasting, and the goddamn circle jerk that the adoptee rights movement has become.

If you want to talk about your feelings, if you feel the need to cry into your dish towel, take a walk right now. You ain’t going to do that here. There are places for that, heck I administrate a couple of them, that’s the place for it. Go heal yourself and please come around when you are feeling stronger. We do have a place at the table for you, when you’re ready.

Now if you can put the pain aside and act like a grown-up for at least a little while, and truly desire your rights, let’s talk.

First let’s be honest, we aren’t even close in the state of Missouri. It’s going to take a lot of work and more than likely a lot of time. A lot of people would tell you that open records are just around the corner, it just ain’t so, right here, right now. All you have to do is look at what happened to all the bills that were considered this session to see that.

That’s not to say that it can’t be done, it can. But getting everybody’s hopes up over something that was obviously going to amount to nothing does no one any good. Expect to get beat up. There are very powerful people who do not want us to have access and the truth be told, those that do support our cause have shown no inclination to go to war recently.

We need to give the people that can help us a reason to champion our cause. While our cause is a noble one, and almost anyone can be convinced of that fairly easily, someone else’s noble cause is rarely a reason to go to war. We need to give them a real reason to help us out.

One of the best reasons I can think of to help someone is that they have helped you out in the past.

The first step in The Brand New Plan is not-so-random acts of kindness. We are going to help out those that could help us out. First go here..

Missouri Leggie Look-up

Find your legislators. Many of them are up for re-election this fall. You can go here to see if they have filed..

Who’s in the running

If they have filed, call their office. You are going to be the best johnny-on-the-spot volunteer they have ever seen. You are going to make phone calls, knock on doors, fetch coffee, eat dirt, what ever, and talk to everyone you know about voting for your candidate. You will impress your candidate with your dedication and nobility. Study up, know all the issues, not just adoptee rights. Let them know that you aren’t one dimensional. That you are a citizen concerned with all aspects of life. They will hopefully see you as the real and noble person that you are.

When you come to them later you will be more than one of the many people who wants something, you will be someone that has helped them. This may help to incline them to help you. You are noble and dedicated after all.

This approach will be most effective in the House races. The House candidates always have less people working for them. State Rep races just don’t have the glamor of the national races, you will have less other people performing not-so-random acts of kindness to compete with.

We need to focus on the already friendly leggies first, of course.

Davis in District 42

Roorda in District 102

In the State senate races, the once and maybe future friendly Connie Johnson has filed for the seat in district 5.

I’ll be throwing myself at my incumbent state rep hoping to curry favor.

This is only the beginning. We need to present ourselves as adults, with some knowledge of how things work in order to be treated as adults.

We are starting all over here folks. This is the first step.


5 thoughts on “I Have A Brand New Plan

  1. Planning is good and fun, it brings hope and things to look forward to and you are unusually smart and that is good.

  2. This is a great post Addie. Talking about our issues has it’s place for sure but not when it comes to getting something done about opening records. Practical, positive action is what we need to concentrate on. You are absolutely right.

  3. I’m sad to say that I have only just discovered your blog, but I am delighted to read your posts. As a 39-year-old Missouri adoptee now living in CA, I have been feeling disheartened over the years by the consistent failure of bills to open access. I am still on the lists for Missouri Open 2000, if you can believe it. Anyway, please keep up the great writing. You are inspiring and helping me to reconnect with a part of myself that I often bury because it is too painful. I deal with incompetent CIs in MO who “try” every three years to find my birthmother, but then can’t because they misspelled her current name in the record. This is explained as, “You see, searching for her has caused her to go undercover. You should be grateful to have a wonderful adoptive family.” ACK. If only they could learn to spell, it would help.

  4. I’m sorry you got involved in the Missouri CI mess. I hate the CI concept. To me it just seems like the state trying to continue to control our adoptions.

    BTW, if they had the wrong spelling of her name, why would that cause her to go underground? Seems like maybe they would have contacted the wrong person.

  5. Addie I just wanted to let you know that I followed this advice way back when you posted it, and it’s finally worked. After 13 months of being the best little doo-bee constituent a Senator could ever want, he’s gone from ‘oh noes what about birthmother privacy’ to signing as a sponsor on our bill. And I talk about this post all the time with other people too. Anyway, I know it’s an oldie, but it’s a goodie, and it worked.

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