Ok, yeah I know, it’s been a while. Let’s just say I’ve had a lot going on, and I’ll get to that. But forst I need to tell you abou the end of our Holt experience.
Lillie asked the bad Holt lady about reunion when adoptees became adults. that is to say what she meant, it took a few tries for the Bad Holt Lady to quite get what she was saying. first, we found out that it was completely wrong, as well as impossible for children to be reunited. Duh, we get that part. I’m not sure it had ever occured to Bad Holt Lady that adoptees actually grow up.
When Lillie really pinned her down and asked the Bad Holt Lady, very slowly and and using very small words, what she thought of adult adoptees reuniting with their firstparents she said something like, “Well that would be up to the parties involved…if both parties thought it was alright, I suppose it wouldn’t hurt..” Bad Holt Lady looked very confused at this point. And by both parties she meant both sets of parents, it seems that the adult adoptee should have nothing to say about this.
When pressed harder she thought it would be OK if “both parties were stable.” By this she did mean the first parent and adoptee. I found it a bit odd that she would even think that any All American perfectly adjusted adoptee would have any chance of not being stable, I guess the Bad Holt Lady missed that contradiction too.
Take what you want to from what I’ve written about this experience. It is presented as it actually happened.