Things that need reform, as simply as possible….
Birth Certificate Access
C’mon people, this is obvious. The sky has not fallen where access by adult adoptees to their original birth certificate has been granted. It’s simple, and it’s the right thing to do. Which leads to….
Uniform regulations on all adoptions
Honestly, it’s like the wild west out there. It doesn’t matter if we are talking about adult adoptee issues, foster care adoption, agency adoption, private adoption, international adoption, anything adoption related. When the first thing you have to ask someone is “Where are you at?” there is something very wrong. We are talking about human beings here. Can we come to some general guidelines please?
Yeah I know, I’m dreaming. So what? You asked me.
Doing just these two things would do more to make adoption more ethical and humane than anything else. Honesty, equal rights for all involved, and a standard set of rules. Simple and beautiful.
There are many specific things that need to be changed in adoption, but most could be cleared up if these two things were in effect. If it’s about the children, and I have to think the adults these children become, give us our rights and a standard way to access them. Not only would this make things better for those already adopted, it would make things better for future adoptees, and those who relinquish, or adopt. From every perspective in what is good for adoptees is good for everyone.