Ah Fathers Day, brought to you by Craftsman Tools, Hallmark Cards, and the American Necktie Marketing Institute. That one day when dads reign supreme. The day when no one messes up the Sunday paper and mom serves dad’s favorite for dinner. We couldn’t have mom using up all of our discretionary gift giving income, now could we?
As an adoptee this day should be big for me. I have two fathers. I should be concerned with how I’m going to divide my between my two dads. Be rushing around trying to find just the right present for both of them, wondering if I can get away with getting them both the same thing. But it’s not quite like that for me.
As my constant readers are aware, I’ve got a whole lot of dad in my adoptive father. To describe him as a strong personality is an understatement. He’s hard to buy a gift for. One can only have so many flashlights shaped like a large mouth bass and lifetime subscriptions to UFO Journal (they ARE among us). I’m always at a loss for Fathers Day gifts for him, but I’m at even more of a loss when it comes to my natural father.
I have no idea if my natural dad is into fishing, UFOs, or the Chicago Cubs. I don’t know him. There was a time that I thought I knew who he had been. I was told by my natural sister (mom’s side obviously) that he was a man that had died many years ago. After my n-sister found that I had contacted his family, I was told that it couldn’t have possibly been him, and in this she was honest. Upon further questioning, all I could discover is that he was most probably “some guy named Eldon”. Apparently “some guy named Eldon” had a family and they must be protected at all costs, though she didn’t know him well enough to recall his last name.
My sister’s devotion to this guy named Eldon is incredible. I cannot imagine depth of feeling involved that would make you choose Eldon and his family over a blood relative. All I can come up with is this Eldon must be a hell of a guy. Heck, I’m feeling kind of left out, he is my dad after all. If Eldon has the power to inspire someone who can’t even remember his last name to silence for over 40 years, I think he might be able to handle meeting me. Maybe if Sis thinks this would come as too much of a shock for this guy named Eldon, I should inform her that I am fully trained in CPR.
I can’t see any other reason why Sis would be protecting Eldon. It couldn’t possibly be about appearances, after all she had nothing to do with any of it. She surely couldn’t be so embarrassed about her bastard sister to think that it would reflect on her so many years later. She couldn’t be thinking that Eldon and his family are more important than me. I’m pretty sure Eldon didn’t do anything for her, other than make a big impression. She couldn’t be that self conscious or uncaring could she?
I’m an optimist, and like to think the best of people, so I’m going to go with my “this guy named Eldon must be a hell of a guy” theory.
I wonder what Eldon would like for Fathers Day?