I’m Back and In Trouble Already

I’m Seeing Double and have been sent to the principal’s office over at Grown In My Heart….

Seeing Double at Grown In My Heart.

Other than that, I’m adjusting.

I’m a freshman at a small mid-western university.  I always thought these things were made up, until it happened to me……

Actually I have managed to get myself enrolled in school.  We’ll see how that goes.  More later.

Adoption and Adaption

First off, tweet for adoptee rights and a free Mary Gauthier “The Foundling” CD today with Claudia and The Adoptee Rights Coalition.  Good cause, free stuff, why wouldn’t you?

Second, get to work on your submissions for  Pieces Of Reunion.  A chance to tell your story, and get published, why wouldn’t you?

Now, what have I been up to?

I don’t even know where to begin.  Let’s just say that the next few months are going to bring a lot of changes for me.  Good changes, I hope.

But one thing is never going to change, I’ll always be adopted.  I can change my shirt, my hair color, my religious affiliation, my status on Facebook, but I can’t change that.

Some folks seem to think that they can deal with all the adoption shit and move on.  The thing is dealing with it doesn’t change it, it just gives you a different perspective.

I’ve been thinking a lot about change lately.  Events beyond my control have forced me to to.  By no decision of my own, my life is going through a major rearrangement. I wouldn’t have chosen this right now.  I would have been just as happy to continue as I was, for at least a while.

I knew things would have to change eventually.  It just never seemed like a good time.  But changes  never seem to happen in good times, and because times are bad, I’m out of a job that I’ve held for over 20 years.

I never meant to stay there this long, when I started I thought I’d be out of there in less than 6 months.  It’s complicated, and it involves my adoptive family, and I couldn’t explain it in less than 100,000 words.  Let’s just say the whole situation of late has left me feeling very adopted.

But, I’m OK with it.  I’m unsure, nervous, but not devastated or paralyzed.  I’ve no choice but to roll with it.  I wonder if some of this feeling of acceptance has something to do with being adopted.

My life has been subject to change from the very beginning.  I was born into one family, and through circumstances beyond my control I was given to another.  That’s as big a change as I can imagine.  I don’t think that being too young to remember this kept me from learning from it.  What are adoptee issues but the universe telling you that some adaption is in order?

As adoptees we are hyper vigilant, always looking out for something that’s different, something that’s changed.  But just because we are aware of changes doesn’t me we have problems reacting to those changes.

I’ve seen adoptees handle life changing experiences almost as if their plans for lunch had been canceled.  I suppose once you take away someone’s identity, they figure they can handle just about anything. Not to say any of these changes are easy for us, I just wonder if many of us have developed mechanisms for dealing with change, through our experiences.

Maybe I’ll get through this alright, maybe I won’t.  But I know it will be the circumstances the event brings on, not the event itself, that cause any future breakdowns. That may seem like a slim distinction, but it’s not. I don’t fear change.  I’m OK with uncertainty.  I expect it.

So I’m off to adapting again.  I’ll figure it out.  I’ll probably subject you to a lot of my figuring it.  I have learned that I’m not alone.  That’s been a lot of my adaption of the last few years.

I have over 20 years experience in retail, and over 40 as a bastard. The job market should be my oyster, huh?

Stay tuned, this could get interesting.

Get Back Honky Cat

Seems that Elton John is the newest entrant in the Celeb Adoption Olympics.  According to the BBC, he’s looking for someone to replace his longtime keyboard player.

The singer added that the death of his long-term keyboardist, Guy Babylon, had also influenced his decision.

“Last week I lost one of my best friends; my keyboard player died of a heart attack at 52.

“It broke my heart because he was such a genius and so young and has two wonderful children.

“What better opportunity to replace someone I lost than to replace him with someone I can give a future to.”

I think Sir Elton might be jumping the gun a bit here.  That kid can’t even reach the damper pedal yet.  Wouldn’t it make more sense for him to hire an experienced key player?  Sure someone of the caliber that Sir Elton would be looking for would certainly demand a good salary, but I can’t see how training someone from the age of 14 months could be cost efficient.   I also doubt it would be timely, Sir Elton is 62 years old.  It takes a while to reach proficiency on the piano. Will Elton even be touring when the kid is finally ready to go out?  Besides there could be child labor laws involved.

As we all know, and Sir Elton should realize, adopted children do not inherit the talents of their adoptive parents.  What if this kid is completely tone deaf?  What would Sir Elton do then?  Go and get another one?  Soldier on like Sir Paul McCartney did with Linda?

I really think Elton should hold auditions rather than adopt.

Oh and there is all this stuff too.

The charity EveryChild has raised some other concerns, in this CNN article.

Something to think about.

Let say Elton decides to pass on this kid.  Will someone else want him?  Is there anyone else looking for a keyboard player?  Would the child’s life be as rich if Peter Noone or Cliff Richard decided to step in?  Heck, if we are talking about aging British musicians, how about Keith Richards?  Now that would be an interesting turn of events.

I’m Tearing Up A Bit

I’m getting messages and pictures from folks at the Adoptee Rights Demonstration in Philadelphia today.  I see the folks that have worked so hard, for so long, to put this together, all gathering to make this thing a reality.

Article From The Philadelphia Inquirer

The Facebook Page for The Demonstration

The Demonstration Page

More On the demonstration

Congratulations to everybody involved and thank you for fighting for adoptee rights.  You are the best.